Dear James,

This is the first time I have replied to one of your outstanding emails.  Your insights and advice have literally saved my one-year relationship from going down in ruins as so many in my past have done.  I join the chorus of voices who praise your talents.  

I almost destroyed what I have by going through exactly what you describe in Destructive Abundance.  When he first called me, I was over-the-moon thrilled.  A month later when I accused him of not calling often enough, the self-sabotage began.

Learning about Anxious Attachment and your steady stream of coaching emails changed my expectations.  I took responsibility for my fears.  Now we are growing in love – healthy love.  Thank you for helping me.  By the way, we are both 80 years old, so old patterns can emerge no matter what age you are.  You don’t just grow out of old fears; you learn to take on the challenges of changing self – not your partner.

In closing, I sold my house today.  I was disappointed I didn’t get more money even though I made a large profit on the sale.  I expressed this to my partner and he encouraged me to be content with what transpired and feel free now to enjoy our future together.  Amazing what a change in perspective can do!

Always appreciative,